Dominance and Submission is a SEXUAL ORIENTATION

Dominance and Submission is a SEXUAL ORIENTATION. Literally. This is different from being part of a sexual minority group like Bisexual, Lesbian or Gay, which are ALSO sexual orientations, and while some kinksters identify as queer who are not LGBTQ, others do because anything that is not vanilla is considered queer to them. But we are in social justice era in America, if that is where you happen to be (I'm not, but I am American), so saying that one is Queer usually signifies the sexual minority status that one should be conscious of claiming if they are merely talking about being white, cis and having a cross dress fetish (not being transgender).

When I say that it is a sexual orientation, I mean that it is a way that OPPOSITES ATTRACT. I am talking about the orientation and direction of energies at play. I can enter a play party or kink event and find my opposite, which is often a submissive male will be inquiring towards me, making upward eyes at me or my eyebrows will perk up when I see a particularly attractive sub action that I feel like clicking with. A submissive will AROUSE my dominance just by being, not trying. This works for me as a sub too. There are a series of sentences or motions; like energetic cords seeking to be plugged into an outlet... It will get me break my protective wall down and cause me to just drop to my knees and want to serve my master. You have more power than you know, even as a submissive! Sway me to move and act. I WANT THIS. Pull. Me. Towards You.

A top wants a bottom as much as a bottom wants a top...this is the basic idea, and then, there is the other factors of attraction and matching that also go into this equation, but if the characters don’t get this basic concept, it’s fairly useless to continue talking about playing.

So if you are messaging me on here or somewhere outside of here and you say "Hey" or "Hi" and "Whats Up" on a kink portal and expect me to be attracted to you in any way you are not understanding the basic principle. You speak casually to me and talk about subbing or domming and you are acting like neither, so i sigh when you talk to me. And I probably move on or don’t respond. I REFLECT the NORMAL that I am receiving from you. You want me to be ATTRACTED to you in a sexual way, then you need to choose an orientation. We are like magnets and without polarity there is just friction. And not the fun kind. The kind that happens when two sticks rub together and don't start a fire. I am writing this because of several messages I’ve received here. And I see my dominance as that of the educator and guide instead of the bitch that just ignores you because you wasted my time, however, i do ignore people who are not a match for me. I don’t cast pearls before swine. And i am able to find this out in a few sentences which is why I always have web based video call before a session.

So take heed and be conscious next time. You want to serve a goddess or a queen then act that way! You want me to revere you as my God or my Queen or King or Domme? Embody that energy to the fullest, and if you need training in this..i can do that do, but also approach me as a seeker wishing to learn how to do these things or get nothing from me.